This episode features Xiaoli Mei, founder of Elite Asian Matchmaker, sharing insider insights on what truly attracts Asian women and how men can build lasting cross-cultural relationships.

Key highlights include:

• Why ambition matters more than formal education (3:30 )

• What Asian women look for in online dating profiles (4:30 )

• How matchmakers “translate” for clients who struggle to present themselves (9:27 –10:56 )

• The importance of learning her culture—and even bringing a small gift to meet her parents (17:00 –19:00 )

• Red flags like gold diggers and the myth of “butterflies” (23:40 –28:15 )

• Dating best practices—how often to meet, when to meet friends, and when to discuss exclusivity (34:07 –38:02 )

• Why trusting your matchmaker and being flexible with your “type” leads to better matches (43:00 –49:40 )

Understanding Asian dating dynamics, trusting the process, and learning how cultural respect, curiosity, and openness can create meaningful relationships.

Xiaoli Mei is an elite Asian and celebrity matchmaker with deep expertise in relationship psychology and cross-cultural connection. Certified in both matchmaking and relationship coaching, she’s helped countless singles find meaningful love. Inspired by her own journey to uncover the “Happiness Code”—balancing success and fulfillment—Xiaoli now empowers others to create thriving, lasting relationships.

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What does Matchmaker May Do?

You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in theircareers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle tofind meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screenthe women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, theymeet the right woman and fall in love.

May Bugenhagen is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, and founder of TwoAsian Matchmakers, a boutique agency helping successful menfind meaningful relationships with Asian partners since 2009.

Known for her warm, curious nature and love of love, May blends intuitionwith strategy to guide high-achieving singles toward genuine connection. Amember of the Matchmakers Alliance and GlobalLove Institute, she’s a respected voice in the industry and amentor to rising matchmakers.

Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan,Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist,and the Huffington Post.